Komparasi Antara Tingkat Kepuasan Seksual dan  Kepuasan Hubungan (Hubungan Friends with Benefit vs. Hubungan Konvensional)

M. Arief Sumantri; Yunita Trisna Dewi

doi:10.22146/gamajop.53991

Komparasi Antara Tingkat Kepuasan Seksual dan Kepuasan Hubungan (Hubungan Friends with Benefit vs. Hubungan Konvensional)

M. Arief Sumantri, Yunita Trisna Dewi

(Submitted 2 February 2020)

(Published 23 May 2020)

Abstract

Penelitian ini akan membandingkan tingkat kepuasan hubungan dan kepuasan seksual. Pengukuran kepuasan hubungan memakai Relationship Assesment Scale yang telah dimodifikasi oleh peneliti, sedangkan untuk kepuasan seksual menggunakan single item yang disusun oleh peneliti. Penelitian ini melibatkan 178 partisipan (89 kelompok FWB, 89 kelompok konvensional), pengumpulan data dilakukan secara online. Analisis data menggunakan independent sample t-test dan analisis kovarians. Hasil penelitian menunjukkan adanya perbedaan kepuasan seksual (t = -3,74, p = 0,000) dan kepuasan hubungan (t = 5,88, p = 0,000) antara kelompok konvensional (menikah atau pacaran) dengan FWB. Perbedaan jenis ikatan terbukti memberikan efek terhadap kepuasan hubungan (F = 65,604, p < 0,01, Ƞ²p = 0,273), kelompok konvensional berdasarkan estimasi means memberi efek yang lebih tinggi. Perbedaan jenis ikatan juga berkontribusi terhadap kepuasan seksual (F = 42,008, p < 0,01, Ƞ²p = 0,194), kelompok FWB memberi efek yang lebih tinggi. Perbedaan jenis ikatan (ikatan resmi/ konvensional dan tidak resmi/ FWB) dapat dijadikan rujukan mengapa kepuasan hubungan untuk hubungan konvensional (menikah atau pacaran) lebih tinggi dari hubungan FWB, dan mengapa kepuasan seksual pada kelompok FWB lebih tinggi dari hubungan konvensional.

Keywords

hubungan FWB; hubungan konvensional; kepuasan hubungan; kepuasan seksual; jenis ikatan

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DOI: 10.22146/gamajop.53991

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